"A" needs Help

Story Time:

There is a girl her name is A

A met a boy named R.

A thought R was cool but cool as in buddy/friend that happens to be a boy cool.

R was not intimidating. R was nice and easy to talk to. there for R was essentially boring.

Well because R was so easy to be around, A felt like she could be herself, she could be funny, she could act like she didn't care... because she didn't. There was no need to impress R.

Well R liked that. So R decided to make googly eyes at A and ask her on a date.

A being a strong supporter in the Every Guy Deserves A First Date Act said yes.

The date with R was just like any other time A had spent with R.

not intimidating.

nice.

with a steady convo.

So from that list you're probably wondering. "what's the problem? that sounds like a good date."

WRONG.

because A didn't feel any kind of spark. excitement. butterflies. or googly eyes. NOTHING.

Over the next week or so after their date R continued to text A. Often asking about her days. plans. & her work schedule.

A's responses were lacking in luster, no response too funny, witty or detailed. This was done on purpose. He continued to text so A decided not to respond to R's last text hoping he would get the hint.

R decided to act upon other means of communication.

like surprise apartment visits. yay!

R stayed way past his welcome. Even after A mentioned not feeling well because of a toothache and how she probably needed to go to bed early.

Not until A stood up and again mentioned how she was tired and probably needed to go to bed did R finally get the idea to leave.

As A walked to the door to push R out (just joking there was no pushing) R asked A on a second date for the next night.

As heartless as A seems, she really doesn't want to hurt R's feelings. She likes R. He is nice. He is a good friend (i even cringe at the reference to being "just friends").

A not wanting R to waist his hard earned money on a girl who isn't interested makes up an excuse.

Something about dentist appointment. swelling in the face and a numb mouth incapable of eating.

A feels awful, wishing she had told him the truth. Should she have told him the truth or is an excuse good enough? Or should A have gone on the second date?

Can a spark be lit if you work at it? Should you have to work at gaining attraction for someone?

Help A out would ya? She could really use your advice. I'm thinking most of you are married or are currently in the dating scene as well so you've been there.. you've done that. A would really appreciate it.

(and R if you happen across this post...know that this blog is like my diary and Im sorry you read it)

(if need be listen to this song)